Following on from my Principal’s Update to you in March, when I encouraged setting morning routines for school, I would like to share with you some interesting advice about the delicate art of communication.
Strong families communicate well about good and bad things. This allows them to celebrate together when times are good and to talk about problems when times are tough. This creates a safe place for children to share difficult feelings like embarrassment, confusion, or shame. And it strengthens family members’ relationships with each other.
There are many ways to encourage good communication in your family. Consider these ideas:
- Encourage family members to talk to each other – and listen so everyone gets a chance to express how they feel.
- Have family meals together as often as possible, at the table with the TV off. This is a time when you can share what’s happening in your lives.
- Help children learn words that express their thoughts and feelings, so they know how to ask for what they need or want.
- Really listen and respond sensitively to all kinds of things – not just nice things or good news, but also anger, embarrassment, sadness, or fear. You don’t always have to solve the problem or give advice.
- Guide family members to learn to negotiate and compromise when there’s a problem, so everyone gets part of what they want.
Don’t forget non-verbal communication. You can use positive nonverbal communication like smiles, eye contact and physical affection to strengthen your relationships.
Children learn about good communication from the way we talk to them and others. This includes watching how we manage conflict or solve problems with others. When our children see us sorting out problems calmly and respectfully, we help them develop important skills for life.
